Please note, I didn’t write the 25 and Over list. It is properly cited at the bottom of the original post with both it’s source and the way that I found it on the internets.
I also don’t agree with everything written on the list.
I think some of them are helpful.
Some of my opinions related to the list:
1) Thank You Notes: I believe in thank you notes, however, I have not written a thank you note in recent memory. I have decided to start.
2) Inviting Yourself to Stay: Still working on this one. The last time I traveled I felt that for one friend I was really imposing and should not have asked to stay with them. However, for another friend it ended up being a lovely end to my trip. So it depends.
3) Moving RE Friends: I just moved, and I agree with this one, although it depends on money and your friends.
4) Physical Awareness: I have felt this way ever since I can remember. Common courtesy in human interaction.
5) On Time: If I arrive within that 15 minute window I’m good… right?
6) Enough Money: I view this as more like “don’t pretend you have more money and force other people to pay for the difference”.
7) Tipping: Knowing how to calculate the tip is a skill you should have by now.
8) Sharing Dreams: Sometimes I like hearing about peoples’s dreams. Most of the time it’s just awkward. Also, I do the whole Freudian dream interpretation thing, so you’re probably telling me WAY more than you want to be telling me.
9) Heels: I don’t ever wear heels anymore (French cobblestone streets and twisting my ankle 4 times in Paris are to thank for that). I think all people should know how to walk in their shoes; this applies to all genders, and all kinds of shoes.
10) Dress-Up: Not dressing up for an important event is disrespectful. But in the end it’s your life; wear whatever you damn well please.
11) Invitations: Not doing as invitations ask is rude, and disrespectful.
12) Know How: Seriously, learn how to do things. As one commenter pointed out: google, use it.
13) Using Your Friends: This bodes for all ages really, but it’s especially crappy when you are an “official adult” and use them to do things you can do yourself.
14) Talking About: I don’t need to hear everything about your job because I go to work too, I don’t care to talk about “deliverables” and “actionable intelligence” when I am not at work. Same with school, I did homework, I don’t need to talk about it every minute of every day. Exceptions to me are things like: “Hey, I learned this cool thing at work today about how big institutions interact with banks, I thought you might want to know too”; or, “My women’s studies class was talking about gender identity and it made me think of when you were a tomboy growing up, how do you feel that affected the way you present yourself to the world?”. Something where the other person gets to participate, where it’s not just a monologue of “Here are my accomplishments today. Now fawn all over me please.”
15) Favors: I agree wholeheartedly.
16) Drinking: Alcoholism. Not funny.
17) Real Paper Products: Yes. I do think you should own a wastebasket. And an ashtray. Seriously.
18) Quiet Hours: Yes.
19) Take Care of Yourself: YES. Emphatically this!
20) Rudeness: Be civil, you exist with other people in a society. If you don’t want to be civil, then please exile yourself.